This is my first official post on my new blog. If you're wondering how I chose the name for my blog, I think it says it all. I am more than just someone's mom. I am a strong-willed, loving, caring, talented woman who has many goals and aspirations in life. I am in a gospel band, I freelance write for one of the area's biggest metropolitan newspapers and I currently am working on my first novel. I'd like to sell a few of my original songs, too.
BUT...........
Since becoming a mom, and since deciding to quit my career as a full-time journalist to stay at home with my son two years ago, I have gotten quite the mixed review of my new lifestyle. I hear everything from "oh, you just stay at home" to "that's great for some people, but I could never do it" to "how can you stand it all day long?" It's really quite depressing. Very rarely do I get someone telling me what a good person I am for giving up a career I loved in favor of staying at home with my son. And I don't think I've ever had someone say "gee, I wish I could do that" and really mean it, not just say it as a polite way to put me down. Nine times out of 10, I'm pitied as the poor woman who is stuck at home all day with her kid.
I feel sorry for anyone who has this viewpoint, because they really don't know what they're missing. Motherhood, as I like to tell anyone who asks, is THE HARDEST job I've ever done. And I've done everything from bartending, to waitressing to working in an office as a receptionist. I've even ironed shirts for a dry cleaning company in my quest to put myself through college. And by and far, raising my child has been the most challenging thing I've ever done.
So please don't pity me. I am a richer, more balanced person for having had this experience. And some day, when I've pulled all my hair out from the stress of raising my son (and maybe other children along with him), I am going to look back on the time I've spent with this unique, little person and be grateful I was "just a lowly stay-at-home-mom." :)
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I love your blog! I also have gotten mixed reactions to being a stay at home mom. But I have had some friends earnestly say that they wish they could stay at home with their kids. Honestly, I think they could stay home if they were willing to live on a shoestring, so to speak. Yes, right now we don't have extra money, but I wouldn't give up the time I have with my kids. I don't want to miss their lives while they're young. I think having Isaiah makes me appreciate Samuel more. I just want to cherish every moment of his little life because I know it goes by so quickly.
Keep on posting!
I think a stay at home mom is by far the highest calling one could have. Sure there is the money sacrfiice. But the amount of love and attention from my wife is worth more then anything in the whole world. I also know for a fact that staying at home is a lot more work then working. Whenever I hear someone choosing to stay home, I am honestly excited
for "just a stay at home mom" you sure keep yourself busy with writing, singing, and committing to church and stuff! i have never looked at you like that! you are a superwoman, shari!
A-M-E-N!!! =)
I couldn't agree more
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